Honor Your Anger: How Transforming Your Anger Style Can Change Your Life Paperback - 2004

Brand New-" Honor Your Anger is a clearly written, insightful look at a topic that concerns everyone. You can indeed learn to understand and manage your anger, and this book will show you how." --Robert Epstein, Ph.D., West Coast Editor, Psychology Today, Director Emeritus, Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies, University Research Professor, California School of Professional Psychology "A critical first step for people who have trouble getting in touch with their anger and expressing it in direct and appropriate ways." --Virginia Williams, Ph.D., co-author of Anger Kills and Lifeskills Do you act out your anger in destructive or underhanded ways? Or do you suppress your anger and turn other people's abuse and criticism against yourself? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But if it's channeled in negative directions, anger can do real damage to you and your loved ones. In this provocative, healing book, psychotherapist Beverly Engel explains why your personal anger style may be hurting your relationships, your career, and yourself. She then shows you step by step how to transform a negative anger style into a positive one. Once you've discovered how to express your anger in healthy ways, you'll find that anger can empower you, motivate you to make important changes, and help you gain a sense of control over your life. -"In this provocative and groundbreaking book, respected author and therapist Beverly Engel show that anger is a normal and healthy emotion- and that the inability to recognize your anger and express it in direct and appropriate ways can turn it into a disruptive and destructive force in your life. Instead of demonizing anger, Honor Your Anger shows you how to use your anger to improve your life. When most people think of someone having a problem with anger, they think the person has a " bad temper" or is unable to control his or her anger. But there are many other unhealthy ways of dealing with anger, including being afraid to express your anger, expressing your anger in underhanded ways, and allowing others to act out your anger for you. This fascinating book presents a proven, step-by-step process that will help you to discover your " anger style, " identify its impact on your life and learn to use your anger as a force for positive change. In Honor Your Anger you'll learn how to create a new anger style that is healthy and life-transforming. Sharing inspiring, real-life stories and positive action steps, Engel not only guides you step by step through the process of discovering your primary and secondary anger styles but provides the practical advice and emotional support you'll need to: Modify or transform an aggressive anger style to turn passivity into assertiveness. Recognize and modify passive-aggressive behavior to transform a projective-aggressive style to deal with other people's angerMove beyond anger Whether you're prone to sudden violent outbursts, overeating motivated by suppressed anger, holding grudges, fear of your own anger, taking out your anger on those weaker than you, or any other destructive anger style, this straightforward and reader-friendly book can help. Honoring your anger can be one of the most important and liberating changes of your life."