How to Make Someone Love You Forever in 90 Minutes or Less Hardcover - 2004

19 x 14 cm-" It's time to stop leaving love to chance. Time to stop being too shy to meet someone, wondering why a promising first date wound up going nowhere or realizing too late that it happened with the wrong person anyway. Nicholas Boothman has a much better way. Drawing on his expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Boothman charts a three-step plan that will help anyone find the love of his or her life. Step one: get ready- come to know who you are through honest self-assessment, and then to know what type of person is your matched opposite-i.e., the person who completes you. Step two, the heart of the program, is working seriously on interpersonal skills- how to be charming, not alarming; flirt with confidence; synchronize body and voice to create trust and chemistry; keep enthusiasm high; even how to cast a wide social net and dress for a first meeting. Step three is about accelerating the kind of intimacy that leads to love, by finding "Me too!" triggers and mastering the art of incidental touch. You'll learn to tap into key emotions through low-, medium-, and high-risk disclosures and how to intensify the nonverbal signals that turn sparks into a flame. All the while you'll establish a solid romantic foundation to convert this magic 90 minutes into a lifetime of love and commitment. Book Description: Speed dating--hah! Nicholas Boothman will have you finding not just the possibility of love, but the love of your life--and will show you how to have that person fall in love with you a mere 90 minutes after you meet. Author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, the Dale Carnegie for a rushed era (The New York Times) with 136,000 copies in print, Boothman is an expert on helping people connect. Now he focuses on romance--showing the reader first how to find and then how to connect with his or her Matched Opposite (i.e., the person who completes you). Beginning with a series of revealing self-assessment tests, you discover who you are and then discover who best suits your personality. (Analytical types should look for Matched Opposites who make them feel intelligent; Supporters need Matched Opposites who make them feel valued.) Then come the tools that make the quest work: how to get out there, with the Two Simple Rules of Socializing; how to make a fabulous first impression, with tips on everything from attitude to accessories; how to be charming, not alarming; introductions, opening lines, and the 1-2-3 mantra of never hesitating. There are techniques for starting and maintaining conversation and for finding Me Too triggers, plus the importance of flirting, incidental touching, rules of self-disclosure, and more. Real-life examples and detailed analyses of actual conversations show the method at work--and why the feedback Boothman receives from his clients often begins, "Please come to my wedding . . . ."